You cannot fully let the person you are with define the person you are during the period you are with them. You must stay true to yourself as a person and your own values. Even when in a relationship, you are still your own person.
For example, when my friend was in school she dated someone who wanted to control her life. He would look through all of her messages, refuse to let her get phone numbers from new friends, get mad when she spoke with her family. He would not let her go out with her friends without him being there. She let him and their relationship set all boundaries for her.
When they broke up, she had extremely limited people to call. She had missed out on opportunities to meet new people, and she had drifted from her family. Her friends felt they barely knew her anymore, and she had nobody to turn to. She did not know who she was, because she was defined by the very relationship that no longer existed.
Keep yourself in check while in a relationship. If it helps, set boundaries for yourself that you will not break. Make sure your voice is heard and you are not restricted by your significant other. Although a relationship involves a lot of give and take, you should not have to sacrifice staples in your life to make your significant other happy.
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