For this post, I will talk a little bit more about my previous post concerning Arguing Differently. If you'd like to find out a little more about this class and what I learned in it, here is a link to something my professor, Barry Kroll, wrote about the class and the ideas he presented in the class.
One of the most interesting stories told in the class, in my opinion, was one concerning an orange. Two children are fighting over an orange. Both children want the orange, but there is only one. The children do not listen to each other or try to talk to each other about why they want the orange. The mother comes in, takes the orange, and cuts it in half. She gives half to one child and the other half to the other child. Little did any of them know that one child wanted the peel from the orange, and the other wanted the juice. Both children could have gotten what they wanted if they had only listened to one another, and found out the reasoning behind each other's desires.
When in a relationship, it is really important to understand why your partner is upset, and what their motivation is. When you are arguing about something, find out why the other person is holding the point of view he/she has. If you take the time to listen to your partner, you can avoid fights or solve them by truly understanding each other.
A song that came to mind when writing this post is We Can Work it Out, by The Beatles
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