Long Distance Relationships

This topic is especially close to my heart, since I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years now. My boyfriend and I see each other about once a month, but we definitely make do and work out any issues as soon as they happen. Here are a few tips for staying in love, even when your relationship spans hundreds or thousands of miles.

1. Make time for each other. Make sure you schedule communication. In the beginning, it is hard to know when the other person will be free, when you will be free, etc. Let your partner know whenever you have time to talk, and see if they have time to talk then too. Once your relationship grows and gets used to the distance, talking to each other at certain times will become routine. Don't rely on texting for all communication. Make sure to talk on the phone or video chat whenever possible.

2. Don't suffocate each other through technology. Even though you may miss your partner, don't forget you have to live your life in the place you are physically at as well. Make sure not to forget about the world around you, becoming so wrapped up in video chat conversations and phone calls. It's all about creating a balance. Living your life, and giving your partner attention at the same time.

3. Problems can really fester when you're apart. Make sure to maintain open communication. Do not hold anger or frustration toward your partner inside. Air any concerns you are having, and let your partner know what you're thinking so you two are on the same page.

4. Don't get frustrated with your partner because you miss him/her. It is surprisingly a very easy thing to do. You're upset that you miss one another, and you started getting mad at each other or picking fights to get each other's attention. Think about what you are doing, and the reasons why you are upset.

5. Be trusting. It is easy to get jealous if your partner begins talking about other people, going places with new friends, hanging out with the opposite sex, etc. Have trust. Your partner feels the same way about the people you have been talking about. Just try to put things into perspective. Don't restrict your partner. Think about your partner's intentions and your own intentions. Be confident enough in your relationship to trust each other.

6. Plan visits. If possible, plan visits when you can see each other. This will give you both something to look forward to together, and will make it a lot easier to get through the days without each other.